Iona Yeung

Dating coach Iona Yeung shares five tips for 20 and 30-something-year-olds who are looking for love in isolation.

1) Re-set your love life 

 

Covid-19 has changed the way we live life and while that presents a new set of challenges, it's also presented a new way of living. This includes how you approach your love life. Now is the time to push the reset button. Reflect on your last three relationships. How did they start? How did they end? How did you feel in each of them? By taking time to identify patterns and triggers, you're able to break relationship patterns that weren't serving you.

Take one of my clients Tara for example. She used to jump from one relationship to another, but now that she's had time to reset and has realised she needed to gain independence and be happy on her own first. She isn't quite ready for the relationship she thought she was so ready for. 


 

2) Come up with your dating bucket list 

 

We're not going to be in isolation forever – and we hope there isn’t a second wave!

So, now is the time to take stock of all the things you want to do when social distancing is officially a thing of the past. 

Make a list of places to eat and visit – as many beautiful places are still temporarily closed. That way, regardless of how the date goes, you would have enjoyed doing something you were looking forward to. Doing so will also make planning dates a lot easier. When your date asks you what you'd like to do or where you'd like to go, you have a list ready to go. 

 

3) Sort your first date outfits

 

With all the time we have indoors, now is a good time to declutter your closet AND organise your first date outfits. Sometimes figuring out what to wear can be stressful. Having a few outfits you'll feel great in will help ease the stress. Nothing to wear? Lots of Australian retailers are still selling online (and shops are finally opening up again).

 

4) Enjoy 'me' time

 

Date yourself. Nothing is more attractive to a guy than a woman who's got her own thing going on. ‘Love yourself’ may be a cliché but there's a lot of truth in it. For one, it says that your happiness isn't solely dependent on another individual. 

 

5) Perfect your online dating profile

 

You can still date from a distance if you're in isolation. Get chatting online and if you meet someone you're digitally compatible with, take it to Facetime or a phone call. If the chemistry translates from text to video chat, start planning your first date. It'll make the wait so much more worthwhile.